‘Lets Just Be Friends’ – Does She Means the End?
She said that. Your ex girlfriend wants to be just friends. You knows bad news is on the way. You were serious with her but now it seems that the walls have fallen in. If she loves you, well, she loves you, so now when she said that why does she want things to change? Is she trying to let you down without hurting? Or is there more to it than that? What does she mean by that? Some good advice on how to react and deal with it.
First, even though she’s using these words, she may not be clear what she wants and how she feels. Obviously things has changed in your relationship to the extent that now she feels the need to reclassify it. In the worst situations this really does mean it’s over, and there’s no getting around that.
But, if she’s more confused than convinced then ‘lets just be friends’ could be posing two subtly different propositions:
(1) “We had something great for a while, but things now change and she not sure if the relationship has future. Please don’t be mad – I just think it’s for the best”.
(2) “We used to feel so close, but I dont feel that strength is still there. We’ve had some rough times and I need space and time to think about our future – I’m not saying I want to break up now”.
If it’s situation 1, then it’s time you accept this is the end of the road. Don’t waste your time and hope on a relationship that’s history. But if it’s situation 2, then she’s still open to persuasion. So tread carefully, don’t rush but take your time and patience to find out how to get things back on track.
