There are many consequences that come to mind when you remain too close with your ex. However, there is one consequence that stands out more than the most: appearing desperate.  Remember, your ex wasn’t attracted to you before because you acted desperate. In fact, you were probably more independent when he fell for you so he’s likely not going to fall for you if you are acting desperate and clingy now.

Many other mistakes can come from staying too close to your ex after a breakup.  Most often these things happen on the phone and result in either drunk dialing or text message terrorism.  These are two things you want to avoid at all costs.

So these are things that can happen that will ruin your getting back with your ex.  Many other mistakes can be made if you remain too close to your ex. For instance, you both are going to say a lot of words you might not actually mean because anger and frustration will be guiding your thoughts.  These are only a few of the things that could go wrong when you’re trying to get your ex back. Play it smart.

Some of the mistakes we make are minor and are of little or no consequence.  But some of them can seriously damage our chances of ever rescuing a relationship that we value very highly but which somehow went off the rails.  In those early days after the breakup, you must avoid at all costs the dreadful temptation of “drunk dial”.

So what is “drunk dial”?  You can probably guess.  You’ve just seen an intimate relationship collapse in a barrage of misunderstanding, anger, hurt and recrimination.  You’ve never felt so alone.  You need something to dull the pain.  And so often that something will be a drink.  Just one, you tell yourself.  But it feels good, so you think another will be better.  It won’t be long before the alcohol has taken a strong enough hold to play its own insidious part in the destruction of your reason.

Suddenly what you want to do more than anything is call your ex girlfriend.  The answer to all your problems is to get her back.  So you call him, you say things, promise things, confess things, and start to plead.  Your voice is slurred, your thoughts aren’t clear.  And what’s worse…she can tell.  Is this really the kind of person she wants to have back as his boyfriend?  Is this the kind of awkward scene she would welcome?  So make sure you never give in to this temptation.  It feels so easy, but its consequences could be dire.

You need to find other ways to relieve your pain because drinking will only deepen and prolong it.  You need to get active.  Take exercise, find hobbies, go out with friends, and maybe even try dating again.  You’ll feel better, you’ll look better, and life will seem like something you can handle again and you won’t have accidentally destroyed your ex’s respect for you.

To recognize these errors and understand these terms continue to read so you will be able to avoid them if your time comes for a breakup or if you’re already at this point and don’t know how to handle your rush of emotions.

Alcohol is not always a contributing factor to drunk dial – though it can sometimes play a part.  Mostly drunk dialing is subject to the muddled thoughts that you have.  This game is deadly, though, because if you manage to let irrationality consume you, you might just lose the one you love forever.  There are a few messages you most likely want to share with your now ex and none of them will work if you make a call when you’re head is clouded and you’re not thinking straight.  The temptation to make this call usually happens when you’re feeling loneliest.  This is bad timing because it also just happens to be the time you’re feeling most vulnerable.  Loneliness and vulnerability do not play well together.  If you make that call at this time you’re going to end up making yourself look beyond desperate, irritating your ex girlfriend and ruining your chances to get her back.

“Text Message Terrorism” reverts back to all other forms of communication that modern day technology has brought upon us.  These are going to be the grating, frustrating, exasperating and illogical responses you’re going to want to send your ex.  While you may think sending constant texts of “I love you” or “I’m sorry” to her, she is going to want to ignore you and will start seeing you as clingy and desperate.

Because communication is such a fickle thing, doing it wrong could be devastating to your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back.  These two mistakes will drive a wedge between you and your ex.  However, even if you’ve already made the embarrassing phone call or left the irritating messages, you still have a chance to fix your relationship.  Just start now with not calling when you’re tempted and giving your ex some time to cool down.  You’ll also get some time to plan on how to get her back.