So why is she doing this?  And what can you do about it to GET HER BACK?

Well, her reasons are probably simpler than you imagine. Your relationship somehow hit the rocks and she feels hurt by that.  She still has feelings for you but she doesn’t want to be hurt again.  So, driven by caution more than anything, she decided that “friendship” is the best way to keep herself emotionally protected but also to keep you in her life.

How to get her back is what’s in your mind.  What you need to do is take the time to remind what she saw in you; the qualities that make her want you in her life.  But take it slow and gentle – she won’t want to feel as if you’re manipulating her.  But take heart from the fact that she doesn’t want to let you go – it’s gives you a real way back.

You’re probably wondering what possessed your girlfriend to decide friendship was the better course.  The answer is confusion.  Sometimes human beings are afraid when a relationship is getting too serious; they try to close off those emotions unconsciously.  It will make her question why she’s staying with you especially if she doesn’t have those feelings anymore.  She doesn’t realize that she still cares about you because she’s hiding them behind the thorny wall.

The obvious reason LET’S JUST BE FRIENDS is she knows deep down that she still cares about you.  As confused as you are, she’s likely to be even more confused.  She’s questioning her feelings because she’s insecure at the moment.

She’s hiding her feelings from herself even if she can’t really hide them from you.  You can tell by the way she is acting towards you that she still cares.  This is why actions are more powerful than words.  She may be saying she wants to be “lets just be friends” but she’s acting like she still loves you with the same conviction she did before.

Your job, then, is to show her how she feels again.  You need to have a plan that won’t scare her away and you need to have some patience and understanding in order to help her see where her feelings really lie.