There’s a popular and persuasive belief these days that it’s possible to measure a person’s feelings about everyone around them on an Emotional Scale.  It’s not just for couple with strong feelings or in close relationships; it gauges the whole range of emotions from complete indifference to the most intense love and the deepest hatred. You have to work out where you register on your ex’s scale.

The best way to identify is to consider what’s happened between you and your ex girlfriend after the breakup. Her behavior? What she’s been doing and saying? If she’s avoiding you, it’s pretty clear you don’t register high at either extreme. You may have to resign yourself to accept her indifference and move on.

But if she doesnt mind talking – she’s the one who initiated any of the contact – and she’s receptive or friendly, then in this case you’re still in her mind. The relationship may be over, but if you ‘I love her still‘ there’s a chance this might be only temporary.  If she’s still talk and see you, then in this case she may be as reluctant as you are to move on.