This is often something that happens after a not so mutual breakup.  Often you don’t realize you’re doing it but any time you’ve sent more than three messages each day to your ex girl, you’re probably on the wrong side of TMT. 

Unfortunately this symptom of a breakup is hard to recognize because you’re so delirious with the need to make your ex understand that you’re not realizing you’re on the verge of harassment.  Your ex is only going to see any message you send her as an annoying attempt to just get back with her because you’re unable to manage living on your own anymore.  Desperate and a nuisance: that is how your ex is going to perceive you if you don’t leave her alone for a while.

Learn self-control.  Every time you pick up your phone to send a text, tell yourself that you’re only pushing her further away.  The best way to get your ex girl back is to show how mature you are when your feelings are crushed.  You’re more likely to get her back if she is willing to talk with you again.

Life is going to be a little disorienting at first because you’re so used to having your ex girlfriend around you or at least communicating with you.  This disorientation is natural because you cared about her.  If you’re not feeling this way, it’s likely you were ready to move on anyway.

First off, it’s perfectly fine that you’re feeling the sad emotions that come with a break up.  Just because you do feel them doesn’t make you weak.  Don’t, however, allow these emotions to overcome you and your common sense.  You can, however, use these emotions to push forward.  If you’re angry, start working out using that anger to stimulate your motivation to get back in shape especially if you’re still thinking how to get back with your ex girlfriend.

The first step to getting over your emotions is to cut off all communication with your ex that you can—no matter what.  If you keep in touch, you’re just going to be reminded daily that your ex is your ex and not your boyfriend/girlfriend.  It’s easier to get over this when you’re not talking to your ex because you won’t be tempted to do something (like hug, kiss, etc) that you were comfortable doing as a couple.

Remain socially and physically active and healthy—a trip to the supermarket dressed in sweats with a basket of different flavors of ice cream does not count as a social outing.  You need to look presentable even when you don’t feel like it (just imagine if your ex saw you picking up Rocky Road and Triple fudge chocolate swirl ice cream).  You can start exercising to feel better about your physical self and you can continue going out with friends and family to help you feel better about your mental self.

Abstain from drugs and alcohol as a means to numb the pain.  They’re just not healthy and will, more often than not, cloud your judgment on how to deal with your ex especially if you want to get back with your ex girlfriend.